Writing a Memoir: Some Considerations


1106 Design

February 11, 2020

By Eric J. Smith, author of Not a Bad Ride: Stories from a Boomer’s Life on the Edge (2015) and Coffee, Steak, and Eggs: 101 Stories from the Wrong Side of Nowhere (2017)

Undertaking the Task

Before becoming too deeply involved in writing a memoir or autobiography, I advise you to determine why you’re undertaking the task. Perhaps you’re writing it for your family and friends with no expectation of major sales: you simply want to leave them a record of your outlook and exploits. Then again, if you want to sell a warehouse full of copies, think about whether some subpopulation of strangers will want to buy your book. If you’re not a celebrity, they probably won’t unless it’s beautifully written and expertly marketed. Even then, it’s likely to be a tough sell unless you’re a convict, madam, or escort with an attention-grabbing hook to make you the toast of the latest news cycle. Otherwise, your potential readers won’t be emotionally invested in your story before reading it, and that’s what it takes to generate sales.


First, you need to decide whether you intend to write an autobiography or a true memoir. An autobiography is a life story from beginning to end, whereas a memoir is a selective set of autobiographical sketches that focus on certain aspects of one’s life. I first intended to write a memoir that concentrated on a single decade in my life: 1966 to 1975. But as the manuscript (MS) took shape, I realized that to get the story told I needed to write a hybrid genre that also related a few adventures from my earlier life and several more recent episodes.

Since 1975, I’d amassed 110,000 words of autobiographical sketches recounting memories from my early life to more recent stories. I’d written these out of chronological order, in various styles, and at varying levels of discipline, detail, and quality. Some of these fragments were epistolary—emails I’d written to friends—and some were written versions of tales I’d told people countless times over drinks. I thought the book would write itself in a matter of months—a simple matter of organization and editorial polish, right? Instead, the task turned out to be daunting. I struggled mightily through more than three years of false starts, rewrites, and edits before putting together the book I was happy with.


I assessed the mixed bag of material I had to work with. Unfortunately, I had not developed any particular theme, structure, story arc, cast of characters, or outline to follow. I decided to present my chapters thematically and chronologically within each theme, which seemed reasonable at that stage.

Rather than flailing about as I did, I recommend that one craft a 1000-word synopsis of the book as well as a short pitch in a few sentences that will help you sell your book, whether or not you plan to self-publish. The synopsis and pitch keep you on track. The pitch answers the question, “What’s your book about?” Your answer shouldn’t be, “It’s the story of my life.” Decide what the memoir is about and state it as part of your short pitch. That’s a difficult but good thing to do before you invest too much time in your project. For example, I decided my memoir was about the Baby Boom generation in America; unresolved psychological conflicts; how I made a living in spite of myself; and how my health rapidly degenerated at an early age.

Beta Readers

After writing, editing, and proofing what you consider a completed MS, submit it to a group of beta readers for their input. Ideally, betas are a half-dozen avid readers and critical thinkers whose judgment you trust and who represent your expected readership as well as multiple genders and sensibilities. Tell them to focus on the MS as readers rather than editors—that you intend to hire a professional editor after you incorporate their suggestions. However, invite them to mention needed edits or even use “track changes” in the document.

Tell your betas you’re looking for honest feedback and that you’ll not be offended by critical comments. Send them detailed instructions for suggestions on aspects of the MS such as organization, pacing, flow, themes, character development, believability, book and chapter titles, dialog, and additions or deletions.

What did my betas do for me? They disabused me of my brilliance. I had organized my book thematically so that I could begin with a hook and then jump into the more interesting portions of the story. The overarching criticism I received from every beta reader was more or less as follows: “In its current form, the MS is choppy. While you tell the story chronologically within thematic chapters, you bounce back and forth in time, making the flow disjointed.” This comment, which I took on board, required that I virtually start over. However, doing so helped me produce a much-improved product. I addressed all the other comments—there were many—as I went along.

Selecting an Editor

Some try to make do without an editor, either out of arrogance or to save money. But all writers, no matter how skilled and meticulous, have blind spots when it comes to their own work. Everyone needs an editor.

We’ve all heard about levels of edit. At the high end, some editors perform ghostwriting, which may be appropriate if the writer brings a story to the table but lacks writing skills. We can classify levels of edit as developmental, content, or substantive edits; copy edits; line edits; even proofreading. Rather than hiring a separate editor for each purpose and paying each separately, hire a single, competent editor who will provide one-stop shopping. I see no reason why a strong, developmental editor—one who will work with you on content, structure, and characterization—cannot also perform copy and line edits. Developmental editors often offer ghostwriting and rewriting, services that should be used with the realization that they change a writer’s voice.

I recommend corresponding with at least six editors before entrusting your MS to one. You will be working closely with this person for a significant period and entrusting your book to them. You’ll need to make sure not only that you can afford the editor, but also that you’ll be compatible and that you both share the same expectations of the level and type of work to be performed and the schedule for its completion.

After internal and external book design, you can go back and pick up another final proofing pass with someone other than your editor to get another set of eyes on the book.


In 2017, Eric J. Smith completed his second book—a collection of very short stories entitled Coffee, Steak, and Eggs: 101 Stories from the Wrong Side of Nowhere. He previously published his memoir Not a Bad Ride: Stories from a Boomer’s Life on the Edge. Both books are available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and many other outlets in paperback and e-book formats. His short fiction has been judged “highly commended” in annual 100-word Friday Flash Fiction website competitions three years in a row (2014–2016), and he was selected as a Featured Writer on that site, sponsored by Comely Bank Publishing, in 2018. Currently, he’s working on his first novel, a coming-of-age tale set in 1962. Before launching his creative writing career, Smith worked for thirty years as a proposal editor and writer. He holds an M.A. in English literature and language and a B.A. with high honors in philosophy from the University of Maryland, College Park.

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